The people

(apologies for the bad writing of this piece, I am hungover)

Ever since I was a child I have had good friendships with people and what I would describe as bad friendships. this is probably not too dissimilar to everybody else. I'm sure we have all made friendships that  have lasted and ones that haven't. but what I want to talk about here is a certain type of Friend,the sort of unintentional friend. I am a fairly nice person, I give myself a hard time every now and again but fundamentally I am nice. I like meeting new people creating new bonds, and most importantly being friendly. usually i can tell within the first few moments of meeting a person if they are they type of person i  like and could be friends with. these are the people who make me laugh, think, engage and generally just enjoy my time around them. it is great when I find this type of person, they make me happy. However this kind of early niceness means that every now and again I will come across the needy friend, the person who is not particularly funny or interesting but just needs to be around somebody in order to feel validated. I remember as a child having a friend who would come and call at my house and then demand my attention for hours. I can remember very clearly the utter boredom of having to be around this person, but not having the balls to tell them to go away.

As I have become an adult these friendships have become less frequent, however every now and again I will find myself around this type of a person, the person that zaps my energy rather than giving me energy, makes me do all the talking. never comes up with a good plan or idea, and worst of all copies what I do...I know this sounds childish and I should be flattered that someone should wish to copy me...but no. I find it highly irritating, and a bit ridiculous. At the moment with this particular person, I walk the line between just being irritated by them, or mildly tolerating them, and I am currently trying to what spend as much time away from them as possible.

And I thought when I hit adulthood problems like annoying friends would be a thing of the past....yet another wrong assumption I suppose.