You have to remember we were young. We didn't know how to deal with it either. Sometimes life throws things it at you. You are not the first person to go through this neither will you be the last. Some people's children they have known, cared for, brought up, lived with for years, have gone. You knew this baby for less than a few months, the baby only lived in you. How can you expect others to totally understand, say the right things. You can't. No one knew this person but you. Please stop being angry, resentful. You have a child now. You must move on, please move on. I don't wish to take any of your pain away from you, but I know people who have lost their 18 year old daughter to cancer, I know somebody who has lost their only child in a car accident, I know somebody who's child committed suicide. Please stop behaving as though you are the only one that this has ever happened too. My own mother had a miscarriage, I too have a missing sibling, and more harrowing I nearly lost my own mum at the age of 5. Don't tell us we don't understand, don't highlight how much you think about your missing child. You are not the only one to deal with this situation. Move on, forgive, it wasn't meant to be, you are not the only mother that feels pain, that has lost a child. We were young.
Forever young.
where is this from? or did you write it? X
ReplyDeleteI wrote it...I felt the need to vent. :S
DeleteSounds like a vent was really needed. I hope it helped to write :) I actually re-read it a few times. It's pretty powerful
DeleteI can imagine, it's a reply to her blog post. It actually happened a few years ago, and I was living with her at the time. I spent a long time being supportive but there comes a point, when the other person attacks and blames the people around them so much that you feel you can't say anything to them in case it's the wrong thing. Which with her, seemed to be everything that was ever said, and unfortunatley she felt the need to bring it all up again this week. And i'd had enough, this blog probably seems harsh, and i know that different people deal with things in different ways, but honestly i know other people who have been through very similar if not worse things and they have never said anything like she did so publically or so resentfully. I hit my limit.
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